We often think the biggest barriers to building a more fulfilling life or business are external, such as, time, money, opportunity, or timing. But in reality, one of the greatest obstacles is internal - The failure to reframe how you see yourself and what’s possible. It’s subtle. Easy to miss. And incredibly costly.
Many of my clients come to me in a place of transition. They’ve achieved a lot. They’re respected in their fields. But they also feel stuck, restless for more, yet unsure of how to move forward. They’re thinking about starting their own business or redefining how they work. But they’re still using old frames of reference to make sense of this new season.
In this space, they measure their worth by the job title they once had. They view entrepreneurship through the lens of employment. They evaluate risk based on outdated fears. They carry limiting beliefs dressed up as caution and “realism.”
And because they haven’t reframed their thinking, they stay circling the same ground.
When you don’t update your internal narrative to match your evolving self, several things can happen you;
- You make decisions from fear, not vision
- You talk yourself out of opportunities before you’ve even explored them
- You struggle to articulate who you are becoming
- You undervalue your own experience and potential
- Most painfully, you begin to doubt yourself, even though nothing is actually wrong.
To reframe isn’t to deny reality or paint over difficulty with false positivity. It’s about choosing a new, more empowering perspective. One that allows you to move forward with intention.
Reframing sounds like;
- “I’m not lost, I’m in transition.”
- “This isn’t the end of my career, it’s the beginning of the work I’m meant to do.”
- “What I’ve built so far is my foundation, not my limitation.”
- “Starting again doesn’t mean starting from scratch.”
Reframing is a skill. And like any skill, it can be learned and strengthened with support and intention.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or afraid to make the next move, ask yourself whether it’s really the circumstances holding me back… or the way I’m looking at them? What you believe about your ability, your options, and your future shapes what you do next. And sometimes, the most powerful shift you can make is in your thinking, not your doing.
